Social Skills

1. Look towards the person's face.
2. Smile a little (if you want to).
3. Say 'Hi' or 'Hello' and their name.
4. Wait for them to say hi back.

💡 Practise with a teddy or family member first.

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Saying Hello

Ages 3-6 · 5 min · conversation

Tiny steps

1. 1Look towards the person's face.
2. 2Smile a little (if you want to).
3. 3Say 'Hi' or 'Hello' and their name.
4. 4Wait for them to say hi back.

💡 Tip

Practise with a teddy or family member first.

My practice notes

1. Pick a good moment — not when they're busy.
2. Say their name.
3. Ask an open question: 'What did you do at the weekend?'
4. Listen to their answer.
5. Share something of your own that matches.

💡 Open questions start with What, How, Why, Who, When.

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Starting a Chat

Ages 7-11 · 10 min · conversation

Tiny steps

1. 1Pick a good moment — not when they're busy.
2. 2Say their name.
3. 3Ask an open question: 'What did you do at the weekend?'
4. 4Listen to their answer.
5. 5Share something of your own that matches.

💡 Tip

Open questions start with What, How, Why, Who, When.

My practice notes

1. Watch the game for a moment to learn the rules.
2. Wait for a pause.
3. Smile and ask: 'Can I play too?'
4. If they say no, that's okay — try a different group.
5. If they say yes, say thanks and follow their rules.

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Joining a Game

Ages 7-11 · 10 min · friendship

Tiny steps

1. 1Watch the game for a moment to learn the rules.
2. 2Wait for a pause.
3. 3Smile and ask: 'Can I play too?'
4. 4If they say no, that's okay — try a different group.
5. 5If they say yes, say thanks and follow their rules.

My practice notes

1. Notice whose turn it is.
2. Wait quietly while it's not your turn.
3. Use your turn, then pass it on.
4. Say 'your turn' to the next person.

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Taking Turns

Ages 3-6 · 5 min · cooperation

Tiny steps

1. 1Notice whose turn it is.
2. 2Wait quietly while it's not your turn.
3. 3Use your turn, then pass it on.
4. 4Say 'your turn' to the next person.

My practice notes

1. Ask first: 'Can we share?'
2. Decide how long each person uses it.
3. Use a timer if it helps.
4. Hand it over gently when time's up.

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Sharing

Ages 3-6 · 5 min · cooperation

Tiny steps

1. 1Ask first: 'Can we share?'
2. 2Decide how long each person uses it.
3. 3Use a timer if it helps.
4. 4Hand it over gently when time's up.

My practice notes

1. Look at the person's eyes and mouth.
2. Eyebrows up = surprised. Down = cross.
3. Mouth smiling = happy. Mouth flat = sad or tired.
4. Check by asking: 'Are you okay?'

💡 Faces don't always match feelings — words help too.

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Reading Faces

Ages all · 10 min · empathy

Tiny steps

1. 1Look at the person's eyes and mouth.
2. 2Eyebrows up = surprised. Down = cross.
3. 3Mouth smiling = happy. Mouth flat = sad or tired.
4. 4Check by asking: 'Are you okay?'

💡 Tip

Faces don't always match feelings — words help too.

My practice notes

1. Face the person.
2. Stop other tasks.
3. Nod or say 'mm-hmm' to show you hear.
4. Repeat back what they said: 'So you felt…'.
5. Ask a question about it.

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Active Listening

Ages 7-11 · 10 min · conversation

Tiny steps

1. 1Face the person.
2. 2Stop other tasks.
3. 3Nod or say 'mm-hmm' to show you hear.
4. 4Repeat back what they said: 'So you felt…'.
5. 5Ask a question about it.

My practice notes

1. Wait for them to finish.
2. Use a calm voice.
3. Start with: 'I see it differently…'
4. Say WHY using one reason.
5. Listen to their reply.

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Disagreeing Kindly

Ages 7-11 · 10 min · cooperation

Tiny steps

1. 1Wait for them to finish.
2. 2Use a calm voice.
3. 3Start with: 'I see it differently…'
4. 4Say WHY using one reason.
5. 5Listen to their reply.

My practice notes

1. Notice when something feels too tricky.
2. Find a safe adult or friend.
3. Say: 'Please can you help me with…'
4. Try again together.

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Asking for Help

Ages all · 5 min · self-advocacy

Tiny steps

1. 1Notice when something feels too tricky.
2. 2Find a safe adult or friend.
3. 3Say: 'Please can you help me with…'
4. 4Try again together.

My practice notes

1. Stand or sit calmly.
2. Use a clear, kind voice.
3. Say: 'No thank you' or 'I'd rather not.'
4. You don't have to explain why.
5. Walk away if you need space.

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Saying No Politely

Ages 7-11 · 5 min · self-advocacy

Tiny steps

1. 1Stand or sit calmly.
2. 2Use a clear, kind voice.
3. 3Say: 'No thank you' or 'I'd rather not.'
4. 4You don't have to explain why.
5. 5Walk away if you need space.

My practice notes

1. Notice something kind, clever, or fun about someone.
2. Look at them.
3. Say it simply: 'I love your drawing.'
4. Smile.

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Giving a Compliment

Ages all · 5 min · friendship

Tiny steps

1. 1Notice something kind, clever, or fun about someone.
2. 2Look at them.
3. 3Say it simply: 'I love your drawing.'
4. 4Smile.

My practice notes

1. Take a breath and calm your body.
2. Say what you did: 'I knocked your tower.'
3. Say sorry and mean it.
4. Ask: 'How can I help fix it?'

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Saying Sorry

Ages all · 5 min · empathy

Tiny steps

1. 1Take a breath and calm your body.
2. 2Say what you did: 'I knocked your tower.'
3. 3Say sorry and mean it.
4. 4Ask: 'How can I help fix it?'

My practice notes

1. Imagine a bubble around each person.
2. Stay an arm's length away unless invited closer.
3. If someone steps back, give them more room.

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Personal Space

Ages 3-6 · 5 min · friendship

Tiny steps

1. 1Imagine a bubble around each person.
2. 2Stay an arm's length away unless invited closer.
3. 3If someone steps back, give them more room.

My practice notes

1. Agree on a goal together.
2. Share jobs — everyone gets one.
3. Check in halfway.
4. Celebrate what each person added.

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Working in a Group

Ages 12+ · 15 min · cooperation

Tiny steps

1. 1Agree on a goal together.
2. 2Share jobs — everyone gets one.
3. 3Check in halfway.
4. 4Celebrate what each person added.

My practice notes

1. Take a slow breath.
2. Use a strong calm voice: 'Please stop.'
3. Walk away to a safe space.
4. Tell a trusted adult what happened.

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Handling Teasing

Ages 7-11 · 10 min · self-advocacy

Tiny steps

1. 1Take a slow breath.
2. 2Use a strong calm voice: 'Please stop.'
3. 3Walk away to a safe space.
4. 4Tell a trusted adult what happened.

My practice notes

1. Use the person's name.
2. Listen all the way to the end.
3. Use a calm, kind voice.
4. Look after their things and space.
5. Disagree without put-downs.

💡 Respect doesn't mean agreeing — it means treating people like they matter.

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Showing Respect

Ages all · 10 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Use the person's name.
2. 2Listen all the way to the end.
3. 3Use a calm, kind voice.
4. 4Look after their things and space.
5. 5Disagree without put-downs.

💡 Tip

Respect doesn't mean agreeing — it means treating people like they matter.

My practice notes

1. Notice who could use a lift today.
2. Pick one small kind thing.
3. Do it without being asked.
4. Don't wait for a thank-you.

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An Act of Kindness

Ages all · 5 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Notice who could use a lift today.
2. 2Pick one small kind thing.
3. 3Do it without being asked.
4. 4Don't wait for a thank-you.

My practice notes

1. Take a breath.
2. Say what really happened, using 'I'.
3. Own your part.
4. Say sorry if needed.
5. Ask: 'How can I fix it?'

💡 Honest AND kind: 'I see it differently…' is honest without being harsh.

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Telling the Truth (Kindly)

Ages 7-11 · 10 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Take a breath.
2. 2Say what really happened, using 'I'.
3. 3Own your part.
4. 4Say sorry if needed.
5. 5Ask: 'How can I fix it?'

💡 Tip

Honest AND kind: 'I see it differently…' is honest without being harsh.

My practice notes

1. Pause — don't blame straight away.
2. Say 'that was me'.
3. Say what you'll do differently.
4. Do that thing.

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Owning a Mistake

Ages 7-11 · 5 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Pause — don't blame straight away.
2. 2Say 'that was me'.
3. 3Say what you'll do differently.
4. 4Do that thing.

My practice notes

1. Agree the rules together.
2. Same rules for everyone — including me.
3. Take turns.
4. If it's not fair, say so kindly.

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Playing Fair

Ages 3-6 · 5 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Agree the rules together.
2. 2Same rules for everyone — including me.
3. 3Take turns.
4. 4If it's not fair, say so kindly.

My practice notes

1. Notice their face and body.
2. Imagine what they might be feeling.
3. Ask: 'Are you okay?'
4. Listen — don't fix yet.
5. Stay with them.

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Showing Empathy

Ages all · 10 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Notice their face and body.
2. 2Imagine what they might be feeling.
3. 3Ask: 'Are you okay?'
4. 4Listen — don't fix yet.
5. 5Stay with them.

My practice notes

1. Notice the tricky bit.
2. Take a breath.
3. Try a different way OR ask for help.
4. Break it into smaller steps.
5. Celebrate effort, not just success.

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Keep Going (Perseverance)

Ages all · 10 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Notice the tricky bit.
2. 2Take a breath.
3. 3Try a different way OR ask for help.
4. 4Break it into smaller steps.
5. 5Celebrate effort, not just success.

My practice notes

1. Look at the person.
2. Say what you're thankful for specifically.
3. Say thank you.
4. Tell them why it mattered.

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Saying Thank You (and meaning it)

Ages all · 5 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Look at the person.
2. 2Say what you're thankful for specifically.
3. 3Say thank you.
4. 4Tell them why it mattered.

My practice notes

1. Name the worry: 'I feel nervous because…'
2. Decide the brave next step (tiny is fine).
3. Take a breath.
4. Do the step.
5. Notice you did it.

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Being Brave

Ages 7-11 · 10 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Name the worry: 'I feel nervous because…'
2. 2Decide the brave next step (tiny is fine).
3. 3Take a breath.
4. 4Do the step.
5. 5Notice you did it.

My practice notes

1. STOP — say the word in your head.
2. Take 1 big breath.
3. Count to 5.
4. Ask: 'What do I really want here?'
5. Choose your next action.

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Stop and Choose (Self-Control)

Ages all · 5 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1STOP — say the word in your head.
2. 2Take 1 big breath.
3. 3Count to 5.
4. 4Ask: 'What do I really want here?'
5. 5Choose your next action.

My practice notes

1. Scan the room — who is on their own?
2. Walk over.
3. Smile and say their name.
4. Invite them: 'Want to join us?'
5. Make space.

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Include Someone

Ages all · 5 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Scan the room — who is on their own?
2. 2Walk over.
3. 3Smile and say their name.
4. 4Invite them: 'Want to join us?'
5. 5Make space.

My practice notes

1. Take time to feel cross — that's okay.
2. Decide if you want to try again.
3. Tell them: 'I'm ready for a fresh start.'
4. Don't keep bringing it up.
5. Notice the good they do next.

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Giving a Fresh Start (Forgiveness)

Ages 7-11 · 10 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Take time to feel cross — that's okay.
2. 2Decide if you want to try again.
3. 3Tell them: 'I'm ready for a fresh start.'
4. 4Don't keep bringing it up.
5. 5Notice the good they do next.

My practice notes

1. Notice your first reaction.
2. Swap 'weird' for 'interesting'.
3. Ask a respectful question.
4. Listen to learn, not to argue.
5. Thank them for sharing.

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Be Curious, Not Judgy (Tolerance)

Ages 12+ · 10 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Notice your first reaction.
2. 2Swap 'weird' for 'interesting'.
3. 3Ask a respectful question.
4. 4Listen to learn, not to argue.
5. 5Thank them for sharing.

My practice notes

1. Decide what kind of person you want to be.
2. Pick one value to practise this week.
3. Check in: 'Did my actions match my words today?'
4. Repair when they don't.
5. Try again tomorrow.

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Walk Your Talk (Integrity)

Ages 12+ · 10 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Decide what kind of person you want to be.
2. 2Pick one value to practise this week.
3. 3Check in: 'Did my actions match my words today?'
4. 4Repair when they don't.
5. 5Try again tomorrow.

My practice notes

1. Agree the goal together.
2. Share out the jobs.
3. Listen to every idea.
4. Help someone else's part.
5. Celebrate what each person added.

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Team It Up (Cooperation)

Ages 7-11 · 15 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Agree the goal together.
2. 2Share out the jobs.
3. 3Listen to every idea.
4. 4Help someone else's part.
5. 5Celebrate what each person added.

My practice notes

1. Notice the spaces and people around you.
2. Pick up after yourself (and one more thing).
3. Follow shared rules.
4. Help a neighbour or classmate.
5. Say something nice about your place.

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Being a Good Citizen

Ages all · 10 min · values

Tiny steps

1. 1Notice the spaces and people around you.
2. 2Pick up after yourself (and one more thing).
3. 3Follow shared rules.
4. 4Help a neighbour or classmate.
5. 5Say something nice about your place.

My practice notes